Seniors And Love
Title: Middle Age and Dating Again
By: Lee Blackspur
There is nothing more difficult than reluctantly finding yourself back in the dating scene when you are middle aged. Typically, the circumstances that bring you back into the singles hunt are not always pleasant. You may be a widower mourning the loss of your spouse or a scorned divorcee that is hurt. Just reassure yourself that you are not alone, although you may feel this way and tell yourself that constantly. It may have been decades since you last dated and so much has changed, but do not let this deter you from living your life!
Paul McCartney and Heather Mills in happier times.
Your heart is still beating and there is a lot of life to live. This is something that you need to realize. Many people that are middle aged and dating again sometimes lack confidence in their appearance. Nobody is expecting you to look like you did when you were 22 and dancing to the Gap Band’s “You Dropped A Bomb On Me”. It’s not 1982 anymore and you don’t have to play the part that you did when you were single then. Before you re-enter the singles scene, you must accept yourself for who you are currently. Now this does not mean that you cannot reinvent your appearance if that’s what you desire. By all means, change your hairstyle, work on your body at the gym, and buy a new wardrobe if that is truly something that you want to do for yourself.
Do you remember them? Does your date?
This should be looked at as a new beginning and maybe you’ll feel different if you look different. That is completely understandable to an extent, but do not feel like who you are right now is not good enough. Sure, you may go to some bars in town and see gorgeous and fit twenty-somethings out and about, but these are not the people you are competing against, unless you are looking to rob the cradle, which some may be and that is your prerogative. Everyone your age, out and about is looking for love and are faced with the same hang-ups and insecurities as you. If anything, be comfortable in the fact that outside of a love interest, you are probably fairly established and stable in your life. Your kids are most likely grown and out or nearly out of the house and you know way more now than you did twenty or thirty years ago. Try to focus on that energy rather than the negative as you prepare to throw yourself back into the dating scene. You will likely find yourself much more comfortable and ready to go back to dating.
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