You're at the corner store doing some mindless chore when suddenly you find yourself face to face with a little cutie who's gazing back at you with that wide-eyed-and-lost look that we all love to see. You smile and make some casual remark and she immediately lights up and gives you a great return smile, deepening the signal. Pre-occupied, you make nothing of it though, or perhaps exchange a few more pleasantries and turn away. You spot her once again at the counter while checking out, but by now she either won't look at you or gives you that quick sort of longing "could have been" look and then is gone. A few minutes later while driving back home think to yourself... "Geez, was that chick flirting with me or what?..."
You really know how to hurt a guy
And so it goes... another unlikely SURPRISE chance to hook up with a hot little number shot down the tubes. This used to happen to me constantly! Not frequently, mind you (I wish) -- but whenever I did catch a surprise flirt like this the result was always the same... nothing!
That's because my reaction to it was always the same: total lock-up!
Democrat, Republican, or Independent this guy knew how to attract women
Part of this failure to engage can be chalked up simple DISBELIEF: by the time you realize... "hey, is this chick flirting with me or what?" the magical moment has already gone sour and the opportunity is kaput. I talk in my books about how your best chances with women will often seem to happen unexpectedly when and where you least imagine them -- which is why it is so very important in gaming women to be able to switch gears and spring into action at the first sign of any sudden connection! So this "catch-a-chance" skill is critically important to your overall success with women.
Alright then, with this idea now established let me share a few of my thoughts on this ONE particular maddening aspect of gaming women: the surprise flirt.